The doctor emphasized that acceptance on the part of the relatives is the first step. The person living with dementia has changed – and we can only cooperate with them if we understand this. It's also important to know that aggression is not the most important symptom of dementia; in fact, it occurs less frequently compared to the general population.
She highlighted that aggressive behavior is often caused by hidden reasons: pain, physical symptoms, anxiety, or even the caregiver’s own emotions and impatience, which the patient reflects back. Therefore, self-reflection and maintaining calm are essential for caregivers.
Every case is different – no two people living with dementia are the same – so we must sensitively and patiently find what works for each individual. A beautiful example was shared: a caregiver in a nursing home would hug the residents and wish them good night every evening. Even the usually restless or aggressive patients would calm down with her – this shows how much human presence and loving gestures matter.
The doctor also pointed out that people living with dementia often suffer from multiple illnesses at once, so the effects of psychiatric treatments must always be considered in context. It's important to have a trustworthy general practitioner or specialist who can support the family as a partner, and for the affected person to also cooperate with the treatments.
Last but not least: the caregiver matters too. We need to find what helps us get through the difficulties, what gives us support, what recharges us – because we can only help others well if we also take care of ourselves.
Thanks to all for allowing us to reflect together once again, to ask questions, and to learn from each other – without taboos, with humanity.
